You’ve just met someone supercute. You go on a couple of dates (or—no judgment—do a little light cyber-stalking) and you manage to figure out their birth date. Suddenly you’ve hit the astrological jackpot: Now you can look up their birth chart, figure out how compatible their sign is with yours, and know what to think and feel about them before you actually get to know them!
Maybe you should take a breather before you get too much cosmic insight into your new love interest. To begin with, astrology is not just about sun signs; it also reveals the conditions you were raised in, how you felt about those conditions, and your tools for and setbacks when coping. You still have free will. When you fixate on what others are or aren’t doing based on their astrology, you can weave a narrative that’s both convincing and convenient, but true intimacy can't be developed when you're operating from ideas about what you think you know about a person.
If you find out, for example, that a person has a lot of planets in Gemini, you can decide what that means, but you don’t really know. People are way more complicated than their parts—even their astrological parts. Whether or not you like a Gemini is a reflection of you and your chart and not about the value of a Gemini. The truth is that relationships are all about your crazy meeting someone else’s crazy, and ideally they add up to something that feels sane in this world.
Remember: Who your crush is and whether they like you is not nearly as important as whether you like them and can be your best self around them. When you’re managing what you think your crush wants, you’re inhibiting them from getting to know you. Facilitating closeness is not the same as true closeness.
No matter how intuitive you are, you're just not objective when you catch feelings. Unfortunately, astrology is an objective pursuit that requires lots of memorization and study, and your interpretations are only as clear as your head. There are no ways to fast-track or get ahead of intimacy. It takes time, experience, and some firsthand problem solving. When you meet someone you’re hella excited about, try instead looking at your own chart. What was happening for you at the moment that you met them? That will give you clues about what you’re meant to get out of the situation.